Anal Sex.
Also known as Sodomy, Greek love, Buggery, Booty sex, Backdoor loving, Dicking the derriere, Banging the bung hole, Reaming the rump, Probing the poop chute, Touring the Hershey highway, Raping the rectum, Packing the fudge, Traveling the old dirt road, Tossing the salad (don’t ask) and plain old Butt fucking.
Why the Fascination with Anal Stimulation?
Why Not?
The many nerve endings in the anus can give intense orgasms to the recipient while the cock provider enjoys a clutching, tightened orifice. The very idea of anal sex is arousing to many, and this form of erotic pleasure is expanding the sexual repertoire of a growing number of lovers. Still considered somewhat socially taboo, it can add excitement, spice, and a feeling of naughty or nasty play.
Some couples reserve it for special occasions or to culminate the evening’s sexual activities; others offer it to their lover as a gift. Anal is often part of successful Dominant/submissive relationships.
Certain women, however, are simply not interested in this type of sex. Some because they are just not anally erotic; others because an ignorant or insensitive lover bungled their first time attempt. Additionally, a few people do have negative misconceptions about the act, perhaps relating to an overly restrictive upbringing. Since you are reading this story, you’ve obviously been able to overcome anything such as that!
This How-To story is directed towards the male reader interested in exploring new territory. Being a dedicated lover of anal sex I hope to offer some helpful thoughts and suggestions.
Communication
It can be very difficult to introduce the idea of anal sex into an established relationship. Be honest; be completely direct about your feelings. Though some call it the ultimate test of trust and love, I don’t feel women should be compelled to do this as a "favor" for their partner. Ladies, if you are not committed to the idea, don’t pursue it. This can be an intense sexual experience but it is meant to be shared.
Of course, men should NEVER force this (for her first time) upon your partner during sex. No one believes that you can "accidentally" miss her pussy and impale her ass. Nope. That just doesn’t happen. The sudden pain will certainly ruin the chance of future anal play with her and the definite loss of trust could possibly destroy your relationship.
Sanitation
Yes.
It is necessary that we begin matters by talking about, um, poop. Yeats wrote poetically of "love pitching his mansion in the place of excrement", and unfortunately, that is indeed appropriate to our situation.
Anal sex can be relatively clean. Recipients should be in good digestive health (diet is very important, obviously) and have had a bowel movement recently.
Many people (including myself) choose to internally cleanse themselves before engaging in this activity. I refer of course to an "enema", and taken several hours before sex should help prevent any surprises. Some couples manage to incorporate this into their lovemaking.
There are people who don’t worry at all about that aspect of anal play. Some folks enjoy getting a bit "messy"; others have sex in the shower to wash away any unexpected unpleasantness. Just select whatever pleases you both.
A very important element to remember during anal sex is the possibility of cross-contamination. Never go from the anus to the vagina, whether with fingers, toys, or penis. You run the risk of transferring fecal bacteria. Of course, starting in the pussy and winding up in the ass is just fine! (Actually, it’s terrific!)
Anatomical Configuration
She’s clean or she’s comfortable with her situation.
What now?
Now is not the time you shove into her ass and start banging away.
Ouch.
Anal sex should not hurt. Unless you are hung like Secretariat, or unless she has specific physical issues, if this activity causes her pain, the two of you are doing something wrong.
Both of you should know your own bodies. She should certainly be aware of her limitations; what feels good, what does not, and how much length and girth she thinks she can tolerate in her tightest hole.
Gentlemen, you should also come to terms with yourselves. Explore your own asses. (I’m smiling as I type this, thinking of your expressions). Before you touch hers, it is important that you know the sensations and the sensitivities of yours. It will make you a much better anal lover, and you just might find something else sexually that you enjoy!
Anatomically speaking, there are two separate sphincter muscles surrounding the anal opening. Count ‘em, two! They are different kinds of muscles, and they function independently of each other.
The first you will encounter is called the outer sphincter. It is a voluntary muscle and can be easily controlled by the recipient (take a moment and clench your ass - you can tell). That muscle is rarely the problem during anal sex.
The internal sphincter, however, is a bit different. It is an involuntary muscle (like your heart pumping) and fear or anxiety will cause it to tense and to close tightly. With practice and relaxation techniques it is possible to learn some control, but for the novice, this explains the occasional pain or discomfort. |
